I’ve also been having very bad mood swings for 2 months since I need a change in medication and he’s been honestly helping me out so much it’s insane, he didn’t get mad when I would do dumb things like invade his personal space because of paranoia or starting fights over nothing where he would have to calm me down. He would just hug me and make me understand it’s just an episode I’m having and it’s okay. Point is he mentioned that too during his freak out and said I could’ve at least been him by 11 because of all that he’s done for me recently.
Edit: thank you for sharing what you have to say. I really appreciate it. I sent a text saying we need to talk and that I don’t deserve the treatment I’m getting. I’m assuming his phone is off and he’s under heavy influence of who knows what since he’s at a festival but hopefully he gets the message. I’m not sure if text was the right way but it felt like the only thing to do to calm my anxiety. 

In general, you should put your big girl pants on and just tell them you’re not interested, even if it means cancelling a date absurdly last minute. Keep it short, keep it simple, and don’t get roped into over-explaining yourself. Try something like: "Thanks so much, but I don’t think we’re a good match." or "Thanks so much, but I don’t see this going anywhere in the long run." That's it.
The same cannot be said for other kinds of relationships. When it comes to work colleagues, or friends, we are not especially interested in dealing with people who are very unlike ourselves. We are most comfortable with those who have similar interests and perspectives, and we do not show a lot of motivation or patience for dealing with our opposites.
The study also looked at whether a person can be trained to resist temptation. The team prompted male students who were in committed dating relationships to imagine running into an attractive woman on a weekend when their girlfriends were away. Some of the men were then asked to develop a contingency plan by filling in the sentence “When she approaches me, I will __________ to protect my relationship.”
The problem with this trend is that it places an unreasonable burden and strain on the marriage, says Stephanie Coontz, who teaches history and family studies at The Evergreen State College in Olympia, Washington. “We often overload marriage by asking our partner to satisfy more needs than any one individual can possibly meet,” writes Dr. Coontz. “And if our marriage falters, we have few emotional support systems to fall back on.
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Chemistry.com is the sister site to Match.com. Subscribers take a personality test and are matched with other subscribers based on the results. You must determine whether your personality type is “Explorer,” “Negotiator,” “Builder,” or “Director.” It offers more guided support than Match.com by offering activities for matches to get to know one another.

U.S. government regulation of dating services began with the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act (IMBRA)[66] which took effect in March 2007 after a federal judge in Georgia upheld a challenge from the dating site European Connections. The law requires dating services meeting specific criteria—including having as their primary business to connect U.S. citizens/residents with foreign nationals—to conduct, among other procedures, sex offender checks on U.S. customers before contact details can be provided to the non-U.S. citizen. In 2008, the state of New Jersey passed a law which requires the sites to disclose whether they perform background checks.[67]
My opinion about why personality is not the best way to go alone. first off as a man of almost 50yrs I have to say dating women based solely on personality doesn't not work. Birds and other animals don't just choose buy looks so neither should humans. I tried many of the so called online dating sites and I tried meeting in real places. Online dating is a true fantasy of BS. Lets be honest to ourselves. When you are out looking in the real world you have specific things you are looking for before you even get to personality. That could range from eyes to legs breasts or bottoms and in most cases all of the above. This is a part of dating that has been omitted by all online dating sites who claim to be the real deal when it comes to love. In reality this is a pure fantasy made of lies created by magazines and polls most don't have the guts to answer truthfully. For example, Size doesn't matter.... BS. I don't care who you are size does matter in one way or another and I don't mean just the sex parts. Just like other animals in the world humans have the things that attract and using an algorithm based on just a couple of people isn't going to find anyone true love because it is already breaking the number one rule of dating. You are beginning on a lie but in our day of political correctness people have been led to believe they can find true love based on questions about personality only and showing a few pictures. Be honest and admit the truth, if you like big butts you are looking for a woman with that feature first and foremost. Same goes for women, the only true statement out there in the online dating world is there is someone for everyone. Problem is as long as we are offended by our choices of body type no one is going to find permanent true love. Even if it works out in getting married this is likely not going to last as you are denying one of the primal instincts you hunt with. Granted you will have to settle in some ways but your basic types are not what you are truly happy settling for. Example for me? I look for Eyes, boobs and legs before approaching a woman. Then I look for personality honesty and baggage. Last I look to see how much she indulges in drinking, food, smoking and drugs. If this woman meets those basic traits then I ask her out. If she is missing just one of those basic things I pass on her because they are essential to my happiness. Then it is her turn on my part, I must match her idea of perfect match. In reality, none of these things are accepted as true choices for online dating. Size does matter for everything and there is no way curvy is another word for obese to be blunt. Every person has a range of acceptable and not one of these sites allows you to use what really matters to each and every person out there. Even fetish sites devoted to the more grotesque aspects of the dating personality barely skim what it takes to really find what you are looking for. In honesty people should not be ashamed of what they have. This is something society has posed as how it should be and that is a total lie. If I want a woman with a bra size of DD or bigger I should be able to list that with no discrimination just like eye color. Love is not a general thing and neither should being able to profess what you are looking for if you truly want to find your match. If you are a person who is ashamed of what you have being described then you shouldn't be surprised when you get something you don't really want. I can't be anymore blunt than this. Those women offended by what a man wants or men feeling the same should really take into consideration and be honest with yourselves that it hurts much more in the long run not starting out with what you want being honest up front than having each of your expectations destroyed by the lies we do now. Best example is breast size and nipple size for women and penis size for men. If I am on a date with a woman wearing a pushup bra or a bra consealing her true nipple size, she is going to hate me very much when I get that thing off of her. I don't do lies and this to me is worse than a lie. She would be dumped right then and there. Same goes with if I put a sock in my pants to make it bigger, do you honestly think the woman who chooses me is going to stay once the truth is exposed? Hell no she won't. So why be offended by body types being listed with parts? I find that more shallow than being honest. I don't want to be with a woman who really wants a huge penis because this will affect her sexually and emotionally accepting me for my 5 1/4 inch. So in the same manner why should a woman want me to accept her for having breasts or other parts that don't match my expectations just to get her personality. This is going to affect both personalities in the long run and ruin what you have which is why I said this is the same as starting based on a lie.
Edit: thank you for sharing what you have to say. I really appreciate it. I sent a text saying we need to talk and that I don’t deserve the treatment I’m getting. I’m assuming his phone is off and he’s under heavy influence of who knows what since he’s at a festival but hopefully he gets the message. I’m not sure if text was the right way but it felt like the only thing to do to calm my anxiety.
The problem with this trend is that it places an unreasonable burden and strain on the marriage, says Stephanie Coontz, who teaches history and family studies at The Evergreen State College in Olympia, Washington. “We often overload marriage by asking our partner to satisfy more needs than any one individual can possibly meet,” writes Dr. Coontz. “And if our marriage falters, we have few emotional support systems to fall back on.
On June 30, 2014, co-founder and former marketing vice president of Tinder, Whitney Wolfe, filed a sexual harassment and sex discrimination suit in Los Angeles County Superior Court against IAC-owned Match Group, the parent company of Tinder. The lawsuit alleged that her fellow executives and co-founders Rad and Mateen had engaged in discrimination, sexual harassment, and retaliation against her, while Tinder's corporate supervisor, IAC's Sam Yagan, did nothing.[62] IAC suspended CMO Mateen from his position pending an ongoing investigation, and stated that it "acknowledges that Mateen sent private messages containing 'inappropriate content,' but it believes Mateen, Rad and the company are innocent of the allegations".[63] In December 2018, The Verge reported that Tinder had dismissed Rosette Pambakian, the company's vice president of marketing and communication who had accused Tinder's former CEO Greg Blatt of sexual assault, along with several other employees who were part of the group of Tinder employees who had previously sued the Match Group for $2 billion.[64]
Hey, guess what? I got married two weeks ago. And like most people, I asked some of the older and wiser folks around me for a couple quick words of advice from their own marriages to make sure my wife and I didn’t shit the (same) bed. I think most newlyweds do this, especially after a few cocktails from the open bar they just paid way too much money for.
When you commit to someone, you don’t actually know who you’re committing to. You know who they are today, but you have no idea who this person is going to be in five years, ten years, and so on. You have to be prepared for the unexpected, and truly ask yourself if you admire this person regardless of the superficial (or not-so-superficial) details, because I promise almost all of them at some point are going to either change or go away.
Most free dating websites depend on advertising revenue, using tools such as Google AdSense and affiliate marketing. Since advertising revenues are modest compared to membership fees, this model requires a large number of page views to achieve profitability. However, Sam Yagan describes dating sites as ideal advertising platforms because of the wealth of demographic data made available by users.[16]

But there’s no way on God’s Green Earth this is her fault alone. There were times when I saw huge red flags. Instead of trying to figure out what in the world was wrong, I just plowed ahead. I’d buy more flowers, or candy, or do more chores around the house. I was a “good” husband in every sense of the word. But what I wasn’t doing was paying attention to the right things. She wasn’t telling me there wasn’t a problem but there was. And instead of saying something, I ignored all of the signals.
Dating as an institution is a relatively recent phenomenon which has mainly emerged in the last few centuries. From the standpoint of anthropology and sociology, dating is linked with other institutions such as marriage and the family which have also been changing rapidly and which have been subject to many forces, including advances in technology and medicine. As humans societies have evolved from hunter-gatherers into civilized societies, there have been substantial changes in relations between people, with perhaps one of a few remaining biological constants being that both adult women and men must have sexual intercourse for human procreation to happen.[3]
Present Korean dating shows a changing attitude due to the influence of tradition and modernization. There are a lot of Confucian ideas and practices that still saturate South Korean culture and daily life as traditional values.[112] Patriarchy in Korea has been grounded on Confucian culture that postulated hierarchical social orders according to age and sex.[113] Patriarchy and Women Patriarchy is "a system of social structure and practices in which men dominate, oppress and exploit women” which is well reflected in the ways of dating in Korea.[114] Adding to it, there is an old saying that says a boy and a girl should not sit together after they have reached the age of seven. It is one of the old teachings of Confucianism[115] and reveals its inclination toward conservatism.
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