I’ve also been having very bad mood swings for 2 months since I need a change in medication and he’s been honestly helping me out so much it’s insane, he didn’t get mad when I would do dumb things like invade his personal space because of paranoia or starting fights over nothing where he would have to calm me down. He would just hug me and make me understand it’s just an episode I’m having and it’s okay. Point is he mentioned that too during his freak out and said I could’ve at least been him by 11 because of all that he’s done for me recently.
If you don’t take the time to meet for lunch, go for a walk or go out to dinner and a movie with some regularity then you basically end up with a roommate. Staying connected through life’s ups and downs is critical. Eventually your kids grow up, your obnoxious brother-in-law will join a monastery and your parents will die. When that happens, guess who’s left? You got it… Mr./Mrs. Right! You don’t want to wake up 20 years later and be staring at a stranger because life broke the bonds you formed before the shitstorm started. You and your partner need to be the eye of the hurricane.
As for the temptation to do some light detective work to contact them and give them a piece of your mind, just don’t. "A 'no' answer is an answer. You’re still getting information," Fields says. If you still need to let out your frustrations (fair), vent to your friends about their awfulness, and then move on. It really is the most direct route to get over the sting.